Ecstatic Sex - Beginning Stages
Initial Steps for Moving Away from Junk Food Sex
When individuals first meet each other it is impossible to have intimate sex because they simply do not know one another. Yet, if there is a high degree of chemistry and physical attraction between the two of them the sexual impulse naturally comes into play.
So what do they do with this attraction? If the attraction is mutual and both individuals are on the same wavelength, then they have some decisions to make. They can either act impulsively and unconsciously and turn each other into a "junk food sex" snack, or they can get conscious and begin to open the doors to ecstatic sex. Here are some ways they can do so.
Going Fast or Taking it Slow -- An Honest Answer
Believe it or not, the hot and steamy initial sexual encounters promoted throughout society today,are more frequently than not junk food sex experiences. Though they can be exciting and stimulating, they are nearly always full of unspoken motivations (outined in the article titled Sex for All the Wrong Reasons) that ultimately lead to a state of dissastifaction, let down, and even hurt and anger.
The only remedy for this is one people rarely consider before engaging in their first sexual encounter. They need to want an ecstatic sex experience over a junk food one. If they are into ecstatic sex they need to be honest right away about their expectations regarding becoming physical together. Then the initial reasons for engaging in sex together will include:
- Desiring a playful encounter
- Looking for a healing of the heart (or emotions)
- Longing for a healing of the body
- Seeking to validate each other in a conscious way
Each of these motivations needs some careful dialogue and consideration between the two individuals before they initiate sexual activity. And, ultimately it makes no difference whether the couple has sex relatively close to meeting each other or waits a long period of time before doing so. Timing is not the issue here, being conscious is.
Each reason above requires a different sexual approach to ensure each partner will feel safe, cherished, loved, and respected afterwards, even if they still don't know each other very well (click on the link for each reason to learn more).
More importantly, from the very beginning hot steamy passions will need to be set aside to allow for the process of open dialogue regarding what the initial sexual encounter will be about. Since ecstatic sex requires intimacy taking this approach automatical opens the doors to ecstatic sex. If each partner keeps this in mind they will gladly avoid heated passion that zips them right through the junk food sex drive-by window for yet another shallow and superficial sexual meal.
Want to get started? Read Setting the Initial Ground Rules for Intimate Sex
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