How To Win Back Your Ex In 5 Easy Steps
Reunite With Your Lost Love And Be Happier Than Ever
Apr 29, 2009
A breakup is never easy to accept. You’ve invested so much of your time, your heart and soul into the relationship yet things didn’t work out and you were dumped. Maybe the breakup happened after a blow-up over something seemingly small and insignificant. Or maybe your partner broke up with you because you did something really dumb that you now regret. Or perhaps the two of you just drifted apart.
Often people learn too late that there were signs all along that the relationship was in trouble. The good news is, it may not be too late to win him or her back.
Make A List Of Your Mistakes
Before you try contacting your ex, sit down and be honest with yourself. Why did the relationship really end? Make a list of everything your ex complained about or pointed out to you. Whether you dressed like a slob, weren’t romantic enough, kissed like chimpanzee, or had a temper, write it all down even if you don’t agree with what your ex's complaints.
Once this list is compiled, one must consider whether these elements are things you'd be willing to change. Can you really change? Do you want to? Do you think she overreacted, or can you see that she was right all along but you just never truly listened?
The list may be long and things tend to turn to petty annoyances as couples argue more before a breakup, so choose the top three pet-peeves your ex had and that you truly feel you can change about yourself. Now, start doing it.
Give Your Ex A Call But Make It Short And To The Point
What do you say? You want your ex to know that you made some big mistakes but that you still love him/her and are willing to do all you can to make it really work this time. You’ll probably hear things like, “Oh sure, you’ve said that before! I’m through with you!”
If he's/she’s talking to you and arguing, chances are good there are still feelings of love there, you simply need to heal the hurt and bridge the distance. Tell your ex that you’re going to prove that you’re a changed person and win her back. Tell her you love her, say goodbye and move on to the next phase of your plan.
Give It Some Time And Work On Yourself
Spend the next two weeks putting the “new you” into action. Let others see that you’ve really changed. Word gets around fast and your ex will soon hear that you’ve turned over a new leaf. When you see mutual friends be sure to look good, have a positive attitude and speak well of him/her.
Why look and act your best? Since people want good things they can’t have. If you walk around depressed and looking like a hobo, your ex will be glad he/she dumped you. Instead, you want to prove that you’re successful, happy, and the kind of person he/she can’t live without!
Set Up A Coffee Date
After waiting a couple of weeks you can finally put the final phase of your plan into action. You need to meet your ex face to face. If you think she’ll be open to seeing you, give your ex a call and say you’d like to have coffee — this is something safe and non-committal.
Don’t offer dinner and especially not drinks. You want your ex to feel valued and respected. If you don’t think your ex would be open to meeting you, try to find out where she might be and “accidentally” bump into him/her. Smile and ask how they've been, then ask him/her to meet you for coffee. Nothing more, nothing less, just coffee. Most will agree to it.
When You Get Together, Look Your Best
When you meet for coffee be sure you look good, but don’t dress in a suit either. You want to look healthy, happy, and touchable. Don’t come on too strong, but tell him/her how much you’ve missed them. Let the ex know that you’ve realized how wrong you were and that you’re doing all you can to change your ways.
If he/she seems open to your advances, be a bit bolder and ask if he/she will take you back. If your ex still seems reluctant, just keep playing it cool and friendly. It may take another date or two, but you’ll be showing absolute proof that you mean business and want to reunite.
By following these steps you aren’t guaranteed a happy ending, but at least you’ll have a much better chance of getting your ex back than if you went about things the way most people usually do. Women and men both need to be heard, respected, and appreciated; it's key to any successful relationship.
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