The Epidemic of Junk Food Sex
Is Your Sexual Experience Merely a Junk Food One?
Today the hype about sex is everywhere. But, just like many people are eating "junk food" they are also getting "junk food" sex to their overall detriment.
Sex is everywhere these days, totally saturating every aspect of people's lives. On the surface it appears as if men and women are becoming sexually liberated. More people than ever before understand sexual mechanics, both mundane and exotic. Yet, paradoxically, even though more people are supposedly enjoying "great sex", many relationship professionals are reporting that despite couples' attempts to use techniques to improve their sex lives, their overall satisfication with their relationships, and even their sex lives, is plummeting. What on earth is going on here?
Sex as Junk Food
Actually, it's not that surprising. In the past 50 years, Western society has turned the most intimate encounter anyone can have with another human being -- sexual relations -- into the equivalent of a fast food junk-filled snack. True, more people are having sex and even having sex with more people. But, more people are eating sugar and junk food these days as well. Sure junk foods taste better, but it is also true that in the long run it does a lot more harm than good. Why? Because it only provides a short-lived superficial high that lacks the capacity to nourish the body. In a similar way, the sexual experiences most people are resorting to today only provide short-lived superficial highs that feel good at the time, but all too often have devasting consequences maybe even for years to come!
How Sex Became Junk Food
So, how has the most loving, nourishing, and rewarding connection you can have with a human being been turned into a junk food experience? Why are so many people settling for junk food sex that is pretty much the same as a quick drive-through trip through an "In and Out" fast food restaurant, instead of desiring and looking for the really deep and ecstatic connection sex is meant to bring?
When Sex Is No Longer Spiritual
One of the fundamental reasons is that people are increasingly separating spirituality from sexuality.
For too many people sex is now cut-off from...
- love
- intimacy
- respect
- caring
- commitment
- and a sense of the body and other person as sacred.
After the High - The Let Down
Without these elements in the mix, sexual experience rapidly declines from the initial high felt during orgasm, into an empty, aching, heart-breaking, and even guilt fraught episode. Sadly, when people experience this let down they often get confused and see it as a sign that they need more fast food sexual experiences, leading some of them into the realm of sexual addiction. What they don't understand is that more sex doesn't lead to more satisfying sex. And, even if they add in exotic sexual positions, tantric practices, Victoria's Secret outfits, sex toys, etc, it doesn't lead to a truly satisfying sexual experience if they still cut love, intimacy, respect, caring, and a sense of the body as sacred from the mix.
How can this be remedied? That is what this series of articles is about.
